75 Long Distance Goodnight Messages for Him or Her

The best long distance goodnight messages are short, specific and make the miles feel smaller: "I'm one sleep closer to seeing you," or "Hope your interview dreams are less stressful than the real thing. So proud of you." Mention something from their day, give them something to look forward to, and when you can, say it out loud in a voice note.

Below are 75 goodnight messages, sorted by mood, plus ideas for when you're in different time zones.

What should I text my long-distance partner before bed?

Text something that shows you were thinking about _them_, not just the time. The easiest formula is: one detail from their day, one feeling, one thing to look forward to. "Hope the headache's gone. I loved hearing your voice tonight. Twelve days!"

Short long distance goodnight messages

1. Goodnight from very far away and very close by.
2. One sleep closer to you.
3. Same moon, different windows. Goodnight.
4. Last thought of the day: you. Every day.
5. Sending you a goodnight hug by text until I can do it in person.
6. Sleep well. I'll be here when you wake up.
7. Miss you already, and I just hung up.
8. Night night. Dream of the airport hug.
9. You're my favorite goodnight.
10. Goodnight, my favorite notification.
11. Wish my pillow was you. Goodnight.
12. Closing my eyes and pretending you're here.
13. Love you to your time zone and back.
14. Sleep tight. Text me the second you're up.
15. Today was better because you were in it, even from far away.

Sweet long distance goodnight messages for her

1. Goodnight, beautiful. I hope you fall asleep knowing how much someone far away adores you.
2. I wish I could tuck the blanket around you tonight. Consider this text the blanket.
3. Every night I'm a little sadder to say goodnight and a little more excited for the night I won't have to text it.
4. You handled today like a champ. Rest now. You earned it.
5. I keep replaying your laugh from our call. Best sound I heard all day.
6. I can't kiss your forehead tonight, so here's a written one. Goodnight.
7. Wherever you are, I hope you feel how much I love you.
8. Goodnight to the girl who makes the distance worth it.
9. The worst part of my day is not falling asleep next to you. The best part is talking to you before bed.
10. Sweet dreams. Save me a spot in them.
11. I'm counting down the days until goodnight is a whisper, not a text.
12. Sleep well, my love. Tomorrow is one day closer.

Sweet long distance goodnight messages for him

1. Goodnight, handsome. Proud of you today, and every day.
2. You're the last person I want to talk to before I sleep and the first I want to talk to when I wake up.
3. I miss your hoodie, but mostly I miss the person in it.
4. Get some sleep. You've been carrying a lot this week.
5. Thank you for staying up late to talk to me. Now go to bed.
6. I sleep better knowing we're in this together.
7. Goodnight to my favorite person in the whole time zone. And every other one.
8. Can't wait to fall asleep in the middle of a movie with you again.
9. Dream about whatever makes you smile. Hopefully me.
10. Every night apart is one less night until forever together.
11. Goodnight. I love you more than I'm able to type.
12. Rest up. You've got a big day tomorrow and I'm already cheering.

Funny long distance goodnight messages

1. Goodnight. Please don't steal the blankets in my dreams like you do in real life.
2. Officially closing the Missing You department for the night. Reopens at 7 a.m.
3. Sleeping diagonally tonight since you're not here. Enjoy your exile.
4. Good night. Do not fall asleep to anyone else's FaceTime.
5. My bed is too big and my phone battery is too small. Goodnight.
6. Reminder: you owe me 47 forehead kisses. Collecting next visit.
7. Going to sleep now so I can wake up and annoy you again.
8. Night! If you snore tonight I won't know, so go wild.
9. Wish I could be the little spoon tonight. Or the big one. I'm flexible.
10. Goodnight from your favorite long-distance subscription.

Goodnight messages when you're in different time zones

When one of you is going to bed and the other is mid-afternoon, goodnight messages need a little rethinking. Write them so they still make sense when they're read hours later.

1. By the time you read this, I'll be asleep and dreaming about you. Have the best afternoon.
2. Going to bed, but I left you a good morning in advance: good morning, I love you.
3. It's midnight here and lunch there. Eat something good for me.
4. My night, your day. Still thinking about you either way.
5. Send me something cute while I sleep so I wake up smiling.
6. Taking the night shift on missing you. Your turn in eight hours.
7. Goodnight to you in the future. I mean, your time zone.
8. Wake me up with a voice note when you're done with work.

For more on making it work across time differences, see our guide to long distance relationships in different time zones.

Goodnight messages for when you really miss them

1. Some nights the distance feels heavier. Tonight's one of them. I love you.
2. I'd give anything to just sit next to you in silence right now.
3. Missing you is the hardest thing I do, and I'd do it a thousand times for you.
4. I put your hoodie on. It doesn't smell like you anymore. Come back soon.
5. Hard night, but you make every hard night worth it.
6. I'm counting down, and I'm not stopping until you're here.
7. Wishing goodnight could be a hug. Soon.
8. Can't wait for the night we don't have to hang up.

If the missing is getting heavy, our guide on coping with missing your partner has practical ideas.

Goodnight messages after a fight

1. We're okay. I love you. Let's talk tomorrow when we're rested.
2. I don't want to go to sleep without saying I'm sorry.
3. Still on your team, always. Goodnight.
4. I hate going to bed upset with you. Can we reset tomorrow?
5. One bad conversation doesn't change anything about how I feel about you.
6. Goodnight. Thank you for talking it out with me, even when it was hard.
7. I love you even when we're both being stubborn.
8. Sleep well. I'll still be here in the morning.
9. Distance makes fights harder. I'm glad we're both still trying.
10. Last thing I want you to hear today: I love you.

Should I send a goodnight text or a voice note?

Send a voice note when you can. In a long-distance relationship, hearing their voice is often what you miss most, and a 20-second goodnight voice note feels closer than any text. It's also replayable on the nights you can't talk.

Easy voice note ideas:

• Read them one of the messages above, in your own words.
• Describe what you're looking at out your window.
• Tell them three good things about your day.
• Hum or sing a few lines of "your" song.
• Say goodnight in the silly voice only they've heard.

Need more? See our goodnight voice message ideas.

Keep the goodnights they send you

The goodnight voice notes your partner sends you are worth more than a scroll back through your chat. When Tucket launches on iPhone and Android, you'll be able to save their voice notes into a pocket just for them, with a photo of them on every sound, and share the pocket so you fill it together. Short clips play instantly, so you can hear them say goodnight again on a hard night. No feed, no strangers. See Tucket for long-distance couples.